The Preacher
My second year of undergrad I got stuck with this guy who I didn’t really know very well. We had lived on the same hall the previous semester and he seemed nice enough. At the time I was under the impression that I could get along with everyone.
Things were kind of awkward right from the get-go because he was a lot more conservative than I was (we attended a private Christian school). He would always ask me how my relationship with God was going and when I’d answer, he would just stare at me and say, “Okay” in a really snotty tone, like he didn’t understand why I was telling him that. A few weeks into the semester I received a lecture about how my desktop of actress Rachel McAdams was the same thing as looking at porn (it was just her face), so I proceeded to change it to a picture from Finding Nemo.
His friends were always in our room and the group of them had no respect for me, demonstrated by throwing my shoes on me, yelling and running around the room and turning my fan on so it would blow on my face, all while I was asleep. His most obnoxious friend also went through my closet to get my Halloween candy, but I forcefully told him to back off.
The clincher came when I was given a lecture by my roommate and his most conservative friend about how my soul was at stake because I owned Not Another Teen Movie and was then chased down the hall while my roommate tried to put a container of rotten fruit salad in my hoodie. I wish I were making that up.
Yeah he might have been more conservative than you, but his real problem seems to be he was an immature jerk!
Anyone else feel like there are pieces of this story missing??
This is actually my story. I had to omit some because of the length requirements.
The reason why we were put together was because I had waited too late to decide whether I was returning to the school/living on campus so everyone already had roommates. They put us together about mid-summer, & I had talked to him a few times over the past year so I knew he seemed a little void of personality but didn’t seem to have any major personality flaws.
The first night we lived together he divulged that he’d been a big partier before becoming a Christian, which I guess explains why he was so extremely conservative. Then when he asked me about my life, I told him I hadn’t been a partier & but since I was 21 at the time I didn’t mind drinking (it was against the colleges rules to drink regardless of age. I shouldn’t have done it but hey, I was 21 & alcohol was new to me). He seemed to view me as his little project to turn around, & when I told him I had some issues with God he REALLY seemed offended. This all happened on the first night we lived together, by the way.
After that it just continued in that fashion. We both stayed out of the room as much as possible & didn’t speak much when we were in there at the same time. His friends were the biggest problem for me, throwing stuff on me & whatnot. I always kept my friends out of the room unless he wasn’t in there.
In the end I moved out because my dad had moved into the town where my college was & it would save me money & give me more freedom (no more room-checks & curfew).
The sad thing is that this isn’t even my worst roommate. My current roommate in grad school is ridiculous, but I’m gonna wait to submit that story until after one of us has moved out & it’s had some resolution.
believe me. this stuff happened at this school… i attended for a very short time before i ran away screaming!
Your roommate and his friends couldn’t have been that good of Christians if they think throwing shoes and rotten food on you/your stuff is acceptable.
They were just the type of Christians who are very judgmental of everyone & if you aren’t exactly like them then you were not considered a good Christian & it’s ok to treat this person however they deemed appropriate. The sad thing is that the school runs on people like this.
throwing shoes, halloween candy…how old are you guys anyways???
I know those types of “Christians”…Sword o’ the Lord on Earth. Which is why I got away from that crowd my Freshman year of Uni. They believe if they’ve got the word of God behind them, they’re justified in carrying out whatever actions seem necessary to “bring you back to the fold” or treat you like a horrid sinner you are. The good news is that these sorts burn themselves out pretty fast. The bad news is that there are tons more just like them.
I think Heaven’s gonna be filled with assholes if this is the kind of folk God’s looking to spread His word.
hah!!! hilarious… nelms u crack me up
Andrew, why did you let them treat you with such disrespect (I mean throwing stuff at you, and other humiliating things)?
Frau Blucher, we were 21 at the time.
Kate, I let them do that because at the time…I was extremely passive. I mean I was sarcastic & sassy, but when it came to sticking up for myself I really had a hard time with it. I still struggle with that with my current roommate but I’m a ton better. Plus the fact that there was only one of me & 4 of them. I was definitely outnumbered.
Oh yeah, I forgot that the most obnoxious one would go through my roommate’s computer to see what sites he’d been to “to keep him accountable.” I asked him if my roommate asked him to do that & he said no, that he just knew it was his duty as his brother in Christ. After that I always made sure my password was set.
tryhariwab (Robyn): You know it.
Wow, get yourself something heavy and blunt. When someone tries to treat you like that, you hit them with it, hard. I found it only takes once or twice before they get it. Some people require pain to understand…
How’s your relationship with God today?
Andrew, why oh why didn’t you punch the lights out of this guy?
I didn’t because he was taller & weighed more than I did. Plus, I didn’t want to invoke the wrath of God because I OBVIOUSLY didn’t know Him like I thought I did.
Man, I would have kicked that guy through a brick wall if he tried to put rotten fruit salad down my hoodie. I know you weren’t really able to stand up for yourself, but running away is a little bit much.