Karma Chameleon
I told everyone my current roommate (and good friend) got into grad school elsewhere and I was really bummed. So this girl from band volunteered to move in with me so I didn’t get a random roommate my senior year of college. It went really well, but then there was my best friend, who I’ll call M. He was a great guy who was also single so I thought my roommate and M would be good together. He was a huge jerk at first, but didn’t want to date her because of she was overweight and not all that pretty. I called him shallow and fought with him enough until he came around and asked her out. And they became inseparable.
Suddenly, my roommate turned into a nightmare. I started noticing that she didn’t shower for days at a time. And she would wake up at 7 a.m. after I worked until 4am (I worked nights) and make a ton of noise slamming drawers and talking on the phone. The straw that broke the camel’s back was when she had M spend the night once. They both woke me after only 2 hours of sleep by being loud (you know what I mean!) – across the room from me in a DORM room. I called M and complained about it, and he told my roommate, who got so upset that she didn’t return to the room for hours.
I went to talk to the RA about it and she agreed to come sit us both down to talk. However, once my roommate got back, I went to get my RA so we could talk like civilized people and my roommate took off and hid somewhere until my RA left. I got so mad I called M and he went off on me! Apparently asking two people not to be gross when I was trying to get sleep and recover from an ulcer is too much. I was so mad I refused to speak to my roommate for the rest of the semester and M wrote a nasty long rant on his blog about me, which all of my friends read. So I lost my friend/roommate and my best friend for no reason. I made plans to move out, kept giving her the silent treatment.
Well, turns out karma is a great thing. My roommate ended up flunking out of school. She even failed band! She had also been let go from her job because she stopped showing up. I came in during the second-to-last week of classes only to find her parents moving all of her stuff out. I was psyched to get to stay in my room after all, but once she was gone, I had to clean up her mess. Not only did that girl’s personal hygiene stink, I also found moldy granola behind her dresser, some kind of sticky mess inside the drawer and nail polish on the carpet my old roommate and I had bought for the room the year before, so I had to throw it out. My roommate is now a cat and I like him so much better. Even with the litter box, he smells lots better!
so the karma thing happened to you after you guilted your friend into dating someone he was not interested in?
some best friend.
Way to pressure your friend into something he didn’t want. I’d say you laid in the bed that you made.
“So I lost my friend/roommate and my best friend for no reason.” No, you didn’t lose them for no reason; this entire story is the reason. You probably lost your friend/roommate when you refused to speak to her for the rest of the semester because she didn’t want to have an RA-mediated talk with you. And you probably lost your best friend because you were a bitch to his girlfriend.
That said: nail polish on the carpet in a dorm room? GASP! Well, thank heavens for karma. Because this girl didn’t shower as often as you’d like and kept different hours than you, and because she got nail polish on your fancy dorm room carpet, she TOTALLY deserved to fail out of school. That’s what karma is all about! Karma, bitches!
you created a monster!
no good deed goes unpunished.
Never play matchmaker.
Cliches have a grain of truth.
This was very confusing. Very. But it seems to boil down to “passive aggressive people who live in glass dorm rooms shouldn’t throw stones.”
The poster is kind of =/ She sounds a bit immature.
I’m imagining a 16 year old speaking this out loud from how it’s written. It’s the only way I can comprehend them not being able to connect cause and effect like that, ending up so very clueless about how she could end up with a rotten time. When your inability to tell a story trumps the story itself, it’s not good to try and get sympathy from others with it. :/
I have nothing to add that these people haven’t already. Sheesh, OP seems to have not learned her lesson in how to interact with people, as she feels that someone failing out of college is Karma for waking the OP up at 7 a.m.
Hey OP, ever think she was having a nervous breakdown? Some friend you are. Seems like both M and your poor former roommate were lucky to toss you aside.
I predict a lot of four-legged roommates in your future.
Well having loud sex across the room is pretty rude.
You guys are kind of happily ignoring an important part of the story — they were having sex a few feet away from her. That’s really disgusting and pretty disrespectful. If someone did that to me, I’d probably hate them.
Yes, it’s pretty nasty to have sex in a dorm room while your roommate is in there, but the OP’s course of action was to 1) call her roommate’s boyfriend and 2) complain to the RA. Where’s the part where she confronts the roommate directly? The immaturity is flying from all corners of this story, but the OP seems to think that she’s free of blame.
poorly written on top of being fairly trivial..
Sorry lady, you brought most of this on yourself. Yeah loud sex is pretty gross, but it was only once and your response was incredibly passive-aggressive. But really, who lives in a dorm room during their senior year? You should be able to handle this sort of (trivial) stuff without an RA holding your hand.
Pfft…it’s a circle jerk of suck all around.
Oh, and if my roommate was having sex right beside me with her boyfriend, I’d get up, get a big pitcher of cold water, and pour it on them. Or find some shoes to throw at them, turn on the light maybe – shaming isn’t always a bad thing you know. Problem solved. They want to act like farm animals, they get the hose! lol
Wow. You, are a certifiable tool with a huge self-entitlement problem. I’m not saying that if this story is accurate that they weren’t d-bags at times also but you know that whole karma thing you mentioned? Right well you don’t just start keeping track of that when you think you do something good and then think you get screwed over. It tallies from the beginning. Nagging your “best friend” to date someone he is not interested in -for whatever reason- is really ridiculous. And from the previous posts I think most of us agree on that.
He is obviously…interesting but I don’t really have enough details to make too much of an assumption about him. I would guess, only from what I have experienced, that he has succumbed to peer pressure on the whole “I won’t date fat girls” thing.
I’ve seen a lot of that (I’m a sex/relationship counselor and therapist).
Women don’t want to date men who are short and bald; when you really get them talking about it though they don’t really have any personal reasons they have just been a victim (like everyone to varying degrees) of acculturation. And I find it really sad because so many people write off others for very arbitrary reasons. And I say arbitrary because they truthfully don’t believe them or hold them as values or “standards” so to speak. They just go with the flow of what is expected for their demographic to want and desire. But if you truthfully do not like to, for example, date obese women well OK! That is your choice and to call someone shallow for that is a waste of time. Everyone has preferences and the majority of people I see in my practice whom say something like that are not being mean or shallow. They honestly are just not attracted to obese people. Its a preference. Usually it is not even superficially based. It has more to do with the implied level of care that person has for themselves, their lifestyle choices and habits, etc.
But one gentlemen that I saw for years who himself did not prefer obese women ended up marrying one and they have one of the better relationships I have seen. The thing for him was that he was very active physically and the experiences he has had in life led him to the conclusion that a lot of obese people weren’t active.
When he met this woman on a nature trail, out hiking and then got to know her he saw that that is not always the case with people whom are overweight. Sometimes its more complicated then they are fat because they eat and sit on their butts all day. Of course we all know that that IS the reason why a portion of obese people are that way. Because they simply eat many more calories than they burn.
Ok, I just realized that this post if far, far too long winded. So I will shut up now and go back into my hole. This is why therapists/counselors, etc have no friends
Lol. We never shut up.
You suck!
“And she would wake up at 7 a.m. after I worked until 4am” – she would wake up at a reasonable hour after you got in at ridiculous o’clock?!?!
Oh and, pictureunrelated you might want to think about client confidentiality.
Pictureunrelated- hilarious, but definitely shows why you have no friends. As for me, I can see things from both sides, but mostly it has to do with reasonable expectations on both sides being shattered. I mean, the poster wanted a good roommate for her last year of school, and the other wanted to shag the girl’s friend across the room, smell bad, and suck at life. What’s unreasonable about that? LOL
I think a lot of people are forgetting some important details here – one, the girl was trying to be nice to this girl from the beginning, she works nights to pay her way through college (hey, for those of you who’ve never had to do that, SHUT UP) and has health problems on top of having a rude roommate, etc. Sounds like she tried to make the problem better (without having to use shame, as the so-called friend M did) but if that girl just decided to run away and not talk to her “like a civilized person,” so what can you do?
And I’m so glad nobody has sympathy for someone who lives with a girl who A) doesn’t shower, B) runs away from her problems, and C) shouldn’t be at college to begin with (who fails marching band?)
Wonder if the wonder-couple are still together? LOL