I’ve met the guy a couple times prior to this, but again, all I got was the impression of a fun-loving, good-natured guy who didn’t always make the wisest choices because he was young still.

I honestly felt terrible for the dog too and outside of nagging on the guy to walk his beast and giving him ultimatums that he wasn’t allowed to leave it alone at the house for extended periods there wasn’t much we could do since the dog was otherwise well taken care in the eyes of animal control. I honestly don’t think he’ll keep the dog much more longer than another year without someone around to remind to walk it and it’s howling its head off in the new apartment. I harbor no ill will toward the dog and actually wish he’d give it up to someone who wants a jogging buddy or potential agility dog. I’m just not going to take my time and attention away from the care of my own animals in order to enable someone who shouldn’t own a dog to be in a better position to keep it and that dog needed more than I could possibly give anyway.

BTW, the bf hasn’t talked to guy since leaving.

It’s also a lot easier to judge these situations from the outside looking in and when you don’t have 25+ year emotional attachments to a person who is also helping you to fund all the construction projects on your house.