Comments on: Liar, Liar

By: limewire

limewire — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 10:42:07 +0000

dang sweet story man.

By: me

me — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 20:11:51 +0000

was there any kind of RA or student advocate in your dorm? in mine we had an upperdivision RA that was there to help all the residents including with roommate problems. i srsly wouldve gotten an outside party involved after the strangers sitting on your bed bit, isnt that a personal safety issue?

By: Duncan

Duncan — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 14:23:35 +0000

“ewww who eats mold?!?!?”

Stilton is lovely on crackers.

@OP – You think you feel bad, imagine how he feels. Unless I’m a crazy-mad person projecting, I think I know the type; she did the flirtatious friends thing, she engineered a liaison and then after she passes it off as something entirely his idea because she’d be to innocent for that sort of thing (or something). People like that just live to generate drama, you’re much better off shy of her.

By: ewz

ewz — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 21:32:04 +0000

Yeah, I’m with the OP on this one.
Sometimes, some roommates are so shitty that no amount of confrontation will help. Not polite requests, not passive aggression, not yelling, nothing. In fact, they may get spiteful and just act worse. I know it’s hard to believe that there are people out there that immature, but it’s true. I have a roommate like that right now, it’s super aggravating.

By: brevity

brevity — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 17:18:03 +0000

What is the OP supposed to do? Piss in her coffee? Her roommate’s behavior was not the OPs fault.

By: Liar Liar's Roommate

Liar Liar's Roommate — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 16:14:29 +0000

So I wasn’t very confrontational person, so what? That doesn’t mean I deserved a roommate who took advantage of that. I was 18, moving from a small rural town to a rich school in a big city and this girl embodied the worst of it. I did normal-people things like ask nicely and stay out of her way. I didn’t want to be passive aggressive and I didn’t want her to get too angry with me because I saw the way she acted when she was angry with others and it wasn’t pretty. As far as I’m concerned her behavior was not in any way “my fault” or my fault for “letting her”, because a normal roommate wouldn’t do stuff like that in the first place. I’d appreciate it if you’d stop insulting me.

By: ijoju

ijoju — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 05:14:18 +0000

OP, you only mentioned that you confronted her over the rotten food. You listed a bunch of horrible stuff she did but not any retaliation. She clearly didn’t respect you from the beginning but you never seemed to do anything about it. She escalated to the point of getting people to sit on you! You didn’t say you did anything until she had sex across from you.

From what you’ve laid out, you weren’t a very confrontational person until this nightmare roommate. She saw that in you, took advantage and you let her.

By: Liar Liar's Roommate

Liar Liar's Roommate — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 22:36:25 +0000

@Andrew – I didn’t “demand to be moved” for a few reasons. 1) There would have been nowhere to move TO – the university had underestimated the amount of housing they would need for that year and I was already forced to upperclassmen housing as it was. 2) I was on full scholarship, including housing, so me threatening to withdraw “my” money would actually just make THEM money. 3) If the last horrible event had happened earlier in the year, I probably would have moved, but since there was only a few weeks left it really wouldn’t have been worth the trouble at that point.

@ijoju – Wow! Thanks for calling me a doormat! Haven’t you ever met someone who was so obnoxious no amount of confrontation/negotiation got through to them? Remind me never to live with YOU!

By: Andrew

Andrew — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 18:06:50 +0000

I find it interesting how in these stories no one ever demands to be moved. As much money as everyone is spending, I think it’s well within your rights. When I lived with that uber-conservative Rachel McAdams hater who I posted about around Thanksgiving, I had a refuge at my dad’s place. But when I lived with the giant last semester (I haven’t posted that one yet) I complained & threatened to leave & guess what? They miraculously found me a place to go when before they said there wasn’t any.

I have found once you threaten to withdraw a lot of money, you can get shit done. It’s not ideal or even necessarily mature, but when it’s basically the only card you have you make it work.

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 07:50:59 +0000

Hooray, not another two-parter!

The idea of someone having sex while I’m trying to sleep mere feet away grosses me out so damn bad. It’d be less rude just to wake the person up and bluntly say “We’re going to have sex, go somewhere else.”