Condo Chaos
I am unfortunately living with MVWR until June when his lease is up.
I bought my condo last year and looked online for a roommate. I am recently divorced and managed to start my life over as an independent single woman. I’m proud of my house and have made it a nice, cozy home. Well, I found this guy and had pity for him because he was getting divorced and moving out of his ex’s house. What he didn’t tell me before moving in was that he had a DUI, no car, no job, and was waiting for his lawyer to complete a car accident settlement. He’d lost his health insurance, so instead of paying cash for meds for his back pain, he drank up to a case of beer a day, followed by shots, while checking Facebook from my couch. This would end in loud, late-night mournful sing-a-longs with his laptop.
One night he was so drunk  that he told me he wanted to “puke scotch all over my tits” and another night he “accidentally” took a muscle relaxer after a day of drinking. He ended up baking a tomato on a cookie sheet and putting water to boil in a casserole dish on the stove. He’d managed to fall asleep with his hand down the garbage disposal before I told him the kitchen was closed. Another day I got a text that said, “If you see a young girl in the house when you get home, don’t freak out – her boyfriend beat her up and she needs a place to stay.” (Oh, no problem! Not freaking out!) That girl stayed for a week and a half.
Last weekend, I came home after being away, and the whole place smelled like there’d been a tire fire. I cleaned all day and when I finally saw him I asked him about the smell and he said, “Oh, do you think it was the pot?” Now, I don’t care if people smoke marijuana, but he signed a lease that said absolutely no illegal substances in my house.
I was nice enough to let him stay through to the end of the lease. What’s most shocking is that when I told him he absolutely had to be out the day his lease ended, he was genuinely surprised!
He broke the terms of the lease and endangered you on multiple occasions (drunk kitchen escapades, allowing strangers to stay in the condo without your permission). I’d kick him out now. In this case, being nice is not a virtue.
It is a horrible situation, but I NEJoy has a point. If he broke the terms of the lease and you did not act it could possibly be seen as an acceptance of his “new” terms of the lease. However, that’s the Monday morning QB in me coming out.
next time check for refernce and a background check. seriously….
Sometimes people understand best when hit with a blunt object. But, you have to have the balls to do it.
I had a landlord/roommate who tried to pull the whole “this guy got kicked out of his house, he’ll just stay in the guest room for a couple weeks.” Turns out he got booted by his wife due to a meth problem and stayed the “couple weeks” in the country run facility operated by the Sheriff instead of the room that doubled as my office.
it never fails. Whenever there is a sob story attached like “he really needs a place to stay” or “she just got out of a bad relationship” it is always disaster. I let one of my roommates brothers stay with us because he was having a ‘bad time’ at home…he turned out to be an alcoholic and drug addict who nearly set our house on fire and then disappeared! Another friend of mine took pity on a friend who turned out to be a junkie and thief…usually, these people are in trouble for a reason and it’s usually their own doing. No one wants to be a bad person, of course.
Sometimes it just doesn’t pay to be nice to people. Because you feel sorry for them, it usually ends up biting you in the ass.
An unfortunate fact of today’s world, you really can’t take pity on strangers. You practically have to run a background check on a homeless person before giving them a dollar.
i know this guy who was always bringing home homeless people, rubbies and collecting and vermin covered furniture and then be surprised when he got bedbugs and when the homeless people would show signs of mental illness…one of HIS roommates threw him out and tossed his clothes out the window. You really have to be careful about helping people some times…it’s not like The Waltons.
psh. i would’ve just thrown him out. marijuana is illegal and if he got caught with the police it would’ve been you going to the slammer! the guy was a real weirdo.