The Quiet Ones
Although I was in my late twenties, I took on a roommate who was five years younger than me. He seemed like he would be neat and he didn’t mind that I had cats. When he first moved in, he brought over a laundry basket’s worth of his stuff and pretty much went directly into his room and stayed there. Okay cool, so he liked to keep to himself. I pretty much had the whole apt to myself, with the knowledge that he was always in his room on the computer.
He slept on a twin air mattress on the floor and there was always a strong smell of b.o. coming from his room but he was courteous and always paid his bills. As summer approached, he mentioned that he had a girlfriend. I didn’t know where he met her, but good for him, I thought. I hadn’t seen her at the place, but towards the end of May he asked me if he could have the place to himself for the night. It was an odd request, but I told him I could be out for the evening as it was a Friday night, and I reminded him that the following week I was going on vacation, so he’d have the whole place to himself then.
I arrived home around midnight that Friday and candles were set out as were (my) bar glasses and some liquor, and the balcony was artfully arranged. But no one was there! I thought he had been stood up, and I felt sort of bad for him.  Less than two weeks later, I figured out what had gone on: he had taken the girlfriend to her high school prom! The girl is tiny, weighing in around 85 pounds. Apparently the “young couple†came back to my apartment later that evening and I assume he deflowered her. I asked a friend of mine, a police officer, if this was legal, and apparently since she’s over 16, it is.
Summer passed without much of her presence at my apartment, but then her first semester of freshman year started at the nearby university. Instead of having a great time with new friends in the dorms, she and my roommate proceed to lock themselves into his room all weekend, every weekend. I have since moved, but I found the situation extremely creepy, and everyone refers to that guy as CP, for “child predator.”
He’s 25 now and she’s 18…
The age difference isn’t great (but could be oh so worse) but the fact that he wanted the apartment to himself so they could have a romantic evening before (and after!) her prom sounds pretty sweet, actually.
I feel sorry for the girl that she lost it on an air mattress though!
Maybe not. Maybe they did it in the OP’s bed.
So your very worst roommate was a guy that kept to himself and maybe, but not certainly, took the virginity of a girl who was over the age of consent?
Umm… it wasn’t “your” apartment, it was both of yours. The fact that you kept reffering to it as solely yours makes you sound like a bitch. And who are you to judge them for spending time together? Get over it! This is certainly NOT a vwr, unless you are referring to yourself maybe.
Don’t age discriminate. I met my boyfriend when he was 18 and I was 14. (we didn’t have sex until I was 16 just because that’s how circumstances worked out) Now I’m 18 and he’s 22. So what. No one cares.
While the age difference isn’t that drastic, the maturity difference between a girl in her freshman year of college (little to know experience about the world, and yes, I was a teenage with an abusive childhood… I know you CAN gain experience, but it never truly prepares you to be a stable adult) and a 25 year old male is vast. I feel bad for the girl. She doesn’t realize that there is far better out there.
Ugh, what’s up with loser older guys trying to bang younger girls? I just had to explain to my younger sister (25) that a 32 year old guy chasing her and wanting to come over at 4.30 a.m. isn’t trying to get to know her >.<
My fiance is going to be 24 and I recently turned 19. It doesn’t make him a predator though. (Granted, we did know each other for nearly 4 years before we started dating).
I would have had more of a problem with the B.O. or that he used your glasses but if this is the worst roommate you’ve had, you’re pretty lucky.
This is stupid. I was 18 when I met my current boyfriend and he was 24 (I’m now 23) and there was nothing sinister or creepy about it. And I agree with some of the other commentators: he was courteous, paid the bills on time and asked permission to have the apartment for a night to himself. He sounds pretty great actually, so get over yourself.
It’s one thing if a male who’s in his mid-twenties serially beds teenage girls because they’re easy to manipulate, but THIS? Sounds totally sweet, even though a little stinky.
I turn 20 in less then a month and my bf is 28. Get over it. Age is just a number. You were probably just jealous he didn’t wanna be with you…
I did know a guy who was kind of gooby…he was 27 and met a 17 year old girl on the net (in some newsgroup) and took her to her grad! they actually dated for a while. He had a roommate for a while who he also met on the net. She sat in the apartment all day selling stuff on Ebay and then left a few months later. Finally he married a woman about his own age but they’re divorced now. Like your roommate he seemed to conduct his entire life in cyberspace.
Or maybe the OP just didn’t want that kind of hanky panky going on there.
I think the weirdest part is them locking themselves in a room every weekend. I knew people like that at Uni…it was bizarre, and it made you wonder what they were doing in there (aside from the obvious)…
This isn’t a bad roommate situation – this is you disapproving of a relationship that your otherwise non-offensive roommate had. Maybe you found their relationship odd or distasteful…but that wasn’t really any of your business, was it? It wasn’t illegal. It didn’t inconvenience you. And (your) bar glasses? Is he forbidden from using them? That just seemed petty.
And who are you to say how the girlfriend ‘should’ have spent her freshman year in college? Again, absolutely none of your business how she chose to spend her time. Didn’t effect you in any legitimate way.
If anyone’s an annoying roommate here, it’s busybody, judgmental OP.
Well, to be fair, this may have been the submitter’s WORST roommate, but not THE worst roommate ever. Weird and stinky, but not imposing or intrusive.
As far as the age difference, with most of the younger girls with older men I’ve seen, the girls pursued the men, not vice versa. This guy was probably a little backwards, and got picked by a horny teenager, and again, in his unimposing, quiet manner, made no objections.
Pff, I was 17 and my bf 27. We’re still together 10 years later. Call me biased but I don’t see the problem in a consensual and legal relationship. Would you prefer the 16 year old sleep with two dozen people her own age throughout college instead?
wow, im surprised everybodys dogpiling on the op. true, this story is hardly a nightmare but it is a little creepy. first i assume op is in a state where the age of consent is 16? that was not clarified. but even then he was 23 and she was 16? thats gross. the age difference gets less significant as the duo in question is older, but is uncool if the younger is in hs or even under 21. plus i guess i support women or anyone taking their younger years to be independent and figure out whats out there and what they need. i was in a situation like this my senior yr of hs and 1st yr college (guy was 25) and it took away from a lot of normal freshmen year things i wishi had done. calm down with the knee jerk reactions..
that’s hot
She was 17 or more when they met as it was her prom and I seriously doubt she was a virgin.
I was 17 when I met my husband, he was 25. If there was any “deflowering” it was him as was the “only have sex in serious relationships” person and hadn’t been in a relationship for 5 years and I was the bi-sexual “sure an orgy sounds like fun” gal –who dragged him back to my apartment after only one date. In fact I was regularly sleeping with a guy at work when we met (but it didn’t mean anything). I was manager of a sales department, he had been bouncing around between jobs while trying to be a rockstar. I had been paying for my own food and clothing since 15 and paying my own rent since 16, he had just moved out for the second time and still ate at home most nights. He assumed I was his age because of how I acted and I assumed he was younger because of how he acted.
Age doesn’t equal maturity. Its been 11 years now, two kids, a house, a dog, a cat, rabbits and a fish.
Its pretty common for women to date older men when they are less than 25, and its nearly always the woman that initiates it unless the guy really “old enough to be her dad”
I kind of get what the OP is saying… actually I get it. People locking themselves in their room EVERY WEEKEND, ALL WEEKEND clearly don’t care to get a life or friends and that’s creepy! I feel sorry for the girl, she’s missing out on so much- my college years were my favorite years, I’ve been out for a year and I’m nostalgic already
uh. i thought the age of consent was eighteen. the girl must’ve been a really skanky ho to give it up to someone much older than her and on prom night, and in the apartment that wasn’t even his and on an air mattress. i don’t wanna even picture the poor mattress after they were done.
i started dating a thirty-four year old when i was eighteen and although THAT was a mistake, every guy i’ve dated since (there were five of them) has been over 30. i’m 21, my current is 31 and we’ve been together since christmas quite happily. some girls just prefer a more mature man…
Oh, thanks, my husband is creepy? We met when I was 17 and he was thirty. I chased him, thinking he was about 24 (I like older men). I’m now 24, 25 in a few months and we got married a couple of months before his 38th birthday.
He is the least creepy, manipulative or pushy man I know, so refrain from snap judgements. Men my own age were usually much worse, which is why I chased older men to start with.
So the fact that he was courteous, paid his rent on time, and kept to himself while he happened to legally date a younger girl makes him a bad roommate? I mean, sure it’s pretty creepy, but I don’t see how his sex life is any of your concern when it’s not affecting you directly.
Ahaha… Guess OP touched a nerve with a certain kind of people
I was 16 when I started dating a 21 year old and that was most definitely a mistake. Sure, girls mature faster than guys, but 20-somethings chasing after teenagers? Creepy…
My friend is now dating a guy who’s in his 30s (She’s early 20s) and to be honest, that relationship is weird and creepy as well.