The Visiting Professor
I had a housemate that was dating an English professor at the college in our town. He must have made quite an impression with the girls because another friend of mind used to rave about how great he was. He was from Ireland or Wales and had a charming accent, etc. When my housemate called it off, the prof couldn’t take the rejection and started getting all dramatic. He called saying that he was dying, so when she went over to his place he said, “I knew you would come back to me.” When that little ploy didn’t work, he tried showing up on our porch raving drunk in the middle of and demanding to be let in. She ignored this and began entertaining a string of gentlemen callers that I started running into in the mornings in our kitchen. The house was an old wooden one, so it was pretty clear what they were doing late into the night. I moved out as soon as I could.
So, your roommate is being stalked and harassed by an ex boyfriend, and she’s a bad roommate because it’s inconveniencing you? You don’t sound terribly sympathetic.
And you don’t have a right to silence in your house. People should be able to do as they please in their own rooms, within reason. If they were having obnoxious theatrical sex, that’s one thing, but if the sound just happens to carry in an old house, you need to put in some earplugs or turn on some music and deal. Judge quietly if you must, but it’s really none of your business what she’s doing, or how many men she’s bringing home. She didn’t have any more obligation to the creep showing up on your doorstep, as you seem to imply. All you had to do was politely say “You know, it’s funny how much you hear in this house at night. Have you ever noticed how thin the walls are?…”
Your roommate had the audacity to have a bad breakup? The bitch!
Unimpressed reader is unimpressed
And having sex with someone else in the house? Now that’s just unheard of.
Phew, you’re a nutter. XD If this was the only annoying thing she did, bringing home guys, then I’ll take her. She sounds easier to deal with than my past room-mate.
Slut-shaming, GO!
I’d like to see your roommate’s post on this site. “My crazy ex was stalking me and even though I did my best to address the situation, my roommate acted as though I were doing it intentionally to inconvenience her. When I started dating again, she got pissed at me for bringing dates home because my attempts to be as quiet as possible were thwarted by our creaky old house.”
I don’t get it?
a) What, was the roommate telling her professor beau with the charming accent to be a creeper just to bother the OP or something? Yes, it’s creepy and unpleasant, but it’s not something the roommate has any control over. Just a guess, but I doubt it was much fun for the roommate either.
b) Did the roommate’s visitors keep eating all your food or clogging up the toilet or set stuff on fire or leave used condoms everywhere or something? Were they constantly screaming and shouting and knocking stuff over while in the throes of activity? Or were they just there having sex with the roommate? Because that would make just as much noise as somebody having sex with a steady boyfriend on a regular basis. And the OP didn’t mention that being a problem with the professor boyfriend. Which leads me to…
c) Did you expect to have complete silence at all times? Because that’s not going to happen if you’re sharing a living space with somebody, even if nobody is having sex.
This sounds more like MRVWD (My Roommates Very Worst Date).